Jackie, I am approaching 50, and just over one year separated from my husband. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.
As I look forward and begin to think about the possibility of future relationships, I can see that dating over 50 might be difficult. So, not only does a large age range, (let’s say 42-57 perhaps?
Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling.
Speed dating first evolved over a decade ago, but it has become much more popular in recent years, especially among baby boomers and seniors.
Perhaps the increasing need for companionship is to blame, or maybe the adrenalin-pumping nature of the event makes it so attractive.
Whatever the case may be, speed dating for older adults is more common and more useful than ever before; it has transformed into an art, where those who can master its style are most successful. Keep reading and we will catch you up to speed (no pun intended).
Most speed-dating events specify a certain cultural background, religion, or age group as a requirement to participate.
Among the over-50 population, this style of dating is especially common.
Of course, you don’t want to divulge too much personal information to a perfect stranger, but you can politely answer the questions and simply move onto the next topic.
With greater wisdom and dating experience, older adults tend to know exactly what they are looking for in a partner.
For this reason, they benefit from quick dates; they know what questions to ask, and after just a few minutes, they can usually tell if there is potential for a relationship, romantic or non-romantic.
I notice that lots of people who were married for maybe 10 years or less seem to say…we got married early, found out it didn’t work, and then later remarried and have found long term, happiness with their next partner/spouse. ) increase the number of potential men for you, but I think you will see that age is only a number, unlike it was, say if you were 30, dating a 20 year old. Go on dates, but don’t force the serious relationship.
What I also notice is that I don’t seem to hear any/as many happy stories about people (like me) who were married 20-25 years, got divorced, and then found happiness/ marriage, etc again. I have always believed that 50’s is in fact, no-man’s land, whether you are single, married, divorced or widowed, the reason being that you aren’t really young anymore, but you aren’t old either. I am me and all I can do is live life to my potential. The thing that bothered me most about your email is this part: You write: “found happiness/marriage etc.
Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor.